What the hell. The heart wants what the heart wants, right?-
The posts for the remainder of the year (for the most part) will be personal in nature, so please forgive the self-involvement in advance. I have worked extremely hard to omit painful personal stories from this blog-o-thing.
Every Fall, I like to engage in two very different sorts of bike rides (I’m into the cycling thing now although I do this with yoga almost every week during the year)—one with a group of good friends, and one alone, myself. These rides don’t have to be real long or strenuous, just long enough to get a clean break from the rigors of my day-to-day life. These moments of serenity each provide me with two very different experiences, and I intimately love both of them.
Although it’s the long free-flowing ride that I take by myself that gives me the time to reflect on where I am at (not lost in a cornfield …) and where I will be going.
This alone time affords me the luxury of taking as much time as I need to relax into a smooth rhythm, to delve deeper into the love that we are often too busy to enjoy and savor. Sleeping in late, enjoying a cup of chamomile tea – “A touch of soy milk and Stevia please.” Hanging out with no agenda, no races, no race prep, no FitBit trackers, no cell phones … Zero responsibilities, it’s as close to heaven as I can get in Nebraska.
We – You included – Have forgotten that there isn’t anything more important than taking time to restore our health, our spirit and mind(s). To reawaken and indulge our enjoyment of deep pleasure (re-read this post again later and preface it with the imagery of love, sex and passion … ), and to retreat into the sweet environment that supports the growth of our true selves.
When we stop being curious about who we really are and start thinking that we already “know” whatever, our intrinsic motivation to be curious, attentive, and engaged – weakens and slowly withers away into nothingness. Slaves to what is to be expected of us.
What am I writing about this morning? Love, relationships, riding a bike, sex, yoga … Cool Fall evenings are tailored for our “delight“. Be well today and enjoy!
Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity-
*Sunglasses, hard hats and earmuffs and required today … We are going to discuss sex and well-being – Yeah*
Too often in relationships, sex, running, yoga, cycling, whatever. We go with the flow of sailing a steady and predictable course. We believe “things” are going well, great even as long as there are no rough waters ahead: Injuries, setbacks and unnamed surprises … We think everything in between the sheets and life must be fine. We’re safe, comfortable, maybe we even think at times that safe and comfortable add up to happiness? Sadly, this is not the case.
Then one day and maybe this day is this morning, someone asks us what you really want out of life, what you really desire? Do you desire to punish your body only to leave your loved ones, wanting?
Embracing vulnerability, I am going to share a list, a list of what I desire – feel free to add to this list in the comments below or share them with a loved one later, either way, only you know what you really want.
A day of not being in pain of some sort or another …
A hand on my lower back and knee that magically heals me …
A gentle hug(s) that last forever …
A smile that makes me smile …
A hand that reaches across to mine during a drive, to take mine …
“What the hell is the point of this post before a long holiday weekend, seriously?”
Creating space for yourself to identify what you want, in “whatever” … yourself, your running program, your relationship(s)? Is pretty cool! Gently move closer to a place that feels right, that nourishes your body and spirit rather than depleting it.
Be well this weekend and please take care.
License my roving hands, and let them go
Before, behind, between, above, below-
I love everything about seduction. Seduction (to me) is about squeezing every ounce of pleasure, out of every experience we come across and embrace – Fully. Life has taught us what happens when we rush “things“, we can miss the best parts of life … The true essence of seduction – is savoring the moments before …
I find it interesting that we often associate seduction with sex, when in fact, true – passionate seduction is the polar opposite of sex. Sex is when our desire(s) are met. Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of our desire(s), seduction is the thrill that arises in the pursuit of desire itself.
I may have learned something about seduction while wandering my path recently. That the deep truth to seduction, we so often overlook? Is to slow down, savoring the moment unfolding in front of you. Often at times I think that “things” are not moving fast enough in my life, meandering along to their own whimsical beat. In the past. I wanted things now, before they even happened. Today, I adjust my thoughts to how I can seduce myself with the idea, the possibility – That everything in this beautiful world changes shape and form – Slowly.
Savor everything you are about to enjoy today, embrace seduction as a path to pleasure.
Truth is not something outside to be discovered, it is something inside to be realized-
Can we all agree that some of the posts here are rather cheeky at times, silly, wasted, pointless? Who wants to talk about authenticity, forgiveness, spirituality, mindfulness?
The best gift you can ever give those you love, and those who care deeply about you, is a healthy “you“. Sounds cheesy, right? Seriously, I thought having a chiseled body doing yoga and performing 1000+ crunches a day was well enough, but a healthy “you“?
Consider for one fleeting moment this morning what I am suggesting. If you are as healthy as you can be, in both mind and spirit, you will be the best possible version of yourself. Less time talking about failed run times, painful yoga sessions and more energy devoted to exploring the world with others.
We could talk about knowing our personal limit(s), making the best use of our time and energy while maintaining a healthy relationship with our body … But this topic is dull and painfully tedious?!?
Quite possibly the greatest gift you can ever offer yourself is not running a marathon or becoming a yoga teacher. Accepting yourself, right now, with no make up, pink bunny slippers and all, is so very powerful … Maybe not as powerful as doing 103 sun salutations in a row, but close enough?!?
When you offer your true, whole self to whatever(*), in both mind and spirit? … Boring stuff right?
* (I figuratively and literally mean whatever: relationships, sex, fixing a flat tire, running … whatever.)
Life is built up by the sacrifice of the individual to the whole. Each cell in the living body must sacrifice itself to the perfection of the whole; when it is otherwise, disease and death enforce the lesson-
One of the main themes this year at CultFit has been: Living in the present moment. Each day, when we share a thought with you … We do so with no expectations. If you have been fortunate enough to travel around the world or surprisingly been called at work by your kids principle?!? The joy of traveling to faraway and exotic lands is bundled craftily with the excitement of not knowing what to expect. Kinda like driving to school …
“What in the hell did that little turd do this time!” <— Driving to school will never be the same.
We are burdened at times by our obsessive compulsive drive towards goals and plans. Another focus here is: Keeping a present state of mind. Plans and goals, be they short-term or long-term, are fine as long as we practice the pivotal Buddhist idea of non-attachment (digest this for a minute peeps).
Our main issue with goals is that in today’s hyper-media-society one becomes obsessed with the “goal“. However the real freedom is the realization that there are no goals, there is only the Now.
What happens when we wait for a tomorrow that never comes? All of us have uttered these very words: The weather today blows! I’ll wait to run tomorrow. F**K this sh!t!!! You want me to drive to gym when it’s freezing outside? Back to bed for me ...
We all have expectations to fulfill the very goals we honestly set (on a good – convenient day), the night before, when it’s warm and the bottle of Jam Jar has not been opened. The thing is peeps: YOU and the people around YOU will suffer when the goals you set fail to come to fruition.
A show of hands from the caring Husbands and boyfriends reading today?!? Anyone … Hello?!?
Where did this MILK COME FROM?
Freshly Fallen Snow = Cross Country Skiing
After a cup of freshly brewed white chai tea …
100 Alternating Goblet Squats
100 KB Halo’s
50 Perfect Pull Ups
Mix and match as you see fit.
If you are committed to breaking the cycle of disappointment in life, the suffering and sadness when something does not happen as you planned? Then you will like (hopefully) what you see here at CultFit starting sometime early next month! Take care this weekend and ENJOY!!!
Sex is dirty only if it’s done right-
**We are purposely skimming the surface of this topic. If you want the science behind these simple ideas? You are completely in the wrong place.**
Quick note: When our bodies hurt, we don’t feel particularly Sexy and the last thing we want is further discomfort. Not only for ourselves but for our partner as well. Few things in life are worse than having a mind that is ready to experiment and play … With a body that is frail and subject to break at any moment. So how do we overlook our pain(s) for the promise of a fun-filled evening, breakfast, second breakfast, lunch?!?
“Runner High” … We have all heard of this euphoric state and the pure pleasure many feel when they gently enter into it. Take a deep breath and revel in the comfort that you do not have to run a marathon, 5k, Mud-Run (these are pleasurable and erotic for different reasons …) or be a serious athlete to benefit from a “Runner High“. When we feel calm and blissful after a hearty laugh or many other pleasant experiences we passionately enjoy? Magical little chemicals are at work in our bodies giving us our high.
If you find yourself in a loving relationship, using the connection you have as a source of comfort will slowly melt the pain away. If you are on your own, it’s time to get creative!
What are some ways we can get creative to help melt our pains away? We’ll toss in a few to get the discussion started:
– Leave a love note on the bathroom mirror for your special someone to see in the morning (Dirty – Erotic … They all work).
– Go to a mushy movie early one evening or pull one up on Netflix (Hugh Grant, Collin Farrell), get comfy and proceed to touch and kiss passionately. Get lost in one another and forget about the horrid movie in the first place.
Link of the Day: Mighty Fine Art
Rock – Paper – Scissors
Limber up as you see fit followed by:
Hollow Rocks for 5 Minutes
Side Planks for 5 Minutes
Hinge Walk Out – Perfect Push Up for 5 Minutes
**5 Minutes is a unique amount of time to each and every one of us, some may like 10? Others 9 … **
Never underestimate the healing power of touch (Insert cheeky message here _______) … ENJOY!!!