Please don’t preach at me—I feel bad enough already-
As anyone who strives to share wisdom and knowledge with others—how often do we command others without first ensuring our own understanding, without first eradicating our own insecurities and tension(s)?
How many of us can honestly answer yes to the following question: Have I done the work that I’m asking this person to do? And more importantly: Am I myself, able to go where they want to go?
No one is perfect, and in fact, our limitations often open the door to understanding and compassion, as well as to the ability to overcome the very faulty practices and beliefs that we are currently dealing with. Although in order to share the wisdom of these past lessons, we have to actually learn these lessons. We have to transcended the obstacles, not merely recognize that they exist.
We can’t rest on our laurels of intention, we must be willing, and able, to be the example …
As I listened from a beach-chair in the shade
To all the noises that my garden made,
It seemed to me only proper that words
Should be withheld from vegetables and birds
A robin with no Christian name ran through
The Robin-Anthem which was all it knew,
And rustling flowers for some third party waited
To say which pairs, if any, should get mated.
Not one of them was capable of lying,
There was not one which knew that it was dying
Or could have with a rhythm or a rhyme
Assumed responsibility for time.
Let them leave language to their lonely betters
Who count some days and long for certain letters;
We, too, make noises when we laugh or weep:
Words are for those with promises to keep.
Do not ruin today with mourning tomorrow-
I’ve managed to stay relatively injury free this year by self-imposing a balance between unexciting “things” and exciting “things“. At home and away from my play outdoors I limit my larder to unexciting events – cleaning up, emptying the dish washer and mowing the yard.
Lately I’ve realized I need to apply the same approach to all areas of my life. I tend to gravitate towards highly stimulating play, conversation and work the way I gravitate toward fine wine and delectable treats. I spoil myself with action, and going too hard physically. I often fail at times to seek flow, the high-stimulation thrill of doing at exciting speed whatever I feel like. To keep myself from becoming jaded, I need to compensate for my highly stimulated actions by deliberately cultivating my ability to find stillness, awareness and comfort.
My trick? Mindfulness exercise: Sitting in a quiet place as I intently watch my breath. A stimulating thought arises in my mind from a recent conversation with a close friend. I gently say “This is just a thought – A wish” . Mindfulness practice keeps my body and mind focused. How do you find balance between unexciting and exciting – I’m curious?!?
One last note, Love helps as well …
Live to the point of tears-
Part of my philosophy here at CultFit is that I believe that people who engage in a healthy and active lifestyle and folks who don’t, can benefit from sharing stories with each other.
Quick example: If you’re struggling with injury, doubting yourself, stuck in a deep – treacherous training rut and wonder if it’s even possible to live a happy life without fretting over a tedious marathon training plan? It can be refreshing and helpful to hear from people who don’t train like a bunch of “freaks“. What do people do who merely run for fun? How do they relax the temptation to compete? On the other hand, if you don’t fancy running more than a meter, it can be affirming or simply a vicarious pleasure to hear the ups and downs of other people’s lives.
Exploring and surrendering to your own style can help you craft your own plan …
When all is said and done, the most helpful thing we can do is ask ourselves: What makes me comfortable, given who I really am?
- Li Po
Do not work self into a state of over-anxiety at the changes that will be found, or attempt to use up the strength and vitality … Forget not the sources of thine inspiration-
Thank you for joining us this lovely afternoon! Feel free to pull up a chair and join in the conversation we are having with Laura Yochelson.
Laura is here to talk about her new book ” In the name of BEING WELL, I made MYSELF SICK.”
The Completely Random Questions-
What about the title of your novel?
In The Name Of Being Well, I Made Myself Sick
I titled the book this because I always wanted to be healthy and had good intentions, but things somehow or other went awry. In the book, I show how I am very easily fooled by my mind in the sense that I believe I am doing something good for myself, when really, I’m just using “healthy” as an excuse to keep myself suffering. As I describe in the book, I feel that if I am not the ideal healthy, people won’t love me and I’m a bad person.
Do you ever wish that you had an entirely uncreative job, like data entry or working in a factory?
Oh no! I’ve had uncreative jobs like those already. For me, actually, the problem is that I am so creative I don’t acknowledge the importance of the more boring (but necessary) processes that one needs to do in order to allow creativity to truly flourish.
Who would play you in a film of your life?
This is such a good question. Unfortunately, I do not know! I think I’d need a couple different actresses, especially since my personality changes so much as I started to get sicker. However, I have seen myself as a character in a movie, which I talk about in the next question.
Have you ever read or seen yourself as a character in a book or a movie?
I’ve watched many different movies on eating disorders and, sadly, never felt as though I could truly relate to the main girl—the sick girl—being featured. There are usually parts of a character that I can relate to but definitely not all of her. As for non-eating disorders media, I really looked up to Hilary Duff in the television show Lizzie McGuire. I wouldn’t say I actually saw myself as Lizzie; it was more like I tried to emulate Lizzie.
About a month ago I watched some of the beginning episodes of Dawson’s Creek and really found myself being able to relate to the character of Joey, played by Katie Holmes. She’s a lot taller than I am in real life, but I saw myself undergoing similar feelings as the ones she had for her friend Dawson.
How do you feel about being interviewed?
I feel good. I feel excited. I would like to do as many different interviews as possible and answer as many unique questions as possible. Hopefully, it’s a good way to spread the message of my book.
Why should we read your book?
You should read my book because it is authentic…and because I worked really, really hard on it! My book is suitable for health and wellness professionals, doctors, therapists, parents, teachers, college-age women and more. I hope people will read my book and see what it’s really like to be diagnosed with an eating disorder instead of just believing the stereotypes. I want to make a difference in the world, and in order to do so I’m asking that people please read what I have to say.
The Holidays are here and frankly: In The Name Of Being Well, I Made Myself Sick … Would make a great gift.
Long time readers know intimately that we do not use the platform we have here to tout Swag or Products. Laura’s new book hits on two points we are passionate about: Being Authentic … Being You. ‘Nuff said.
Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future; Live the actual moment. Only this moment is life-
What does it mean to be fully present?
For starters: Stop worrying about Thanksgiving and take care of your Body – Mind – Spirit in this present moment.
A few startling patterns will begin to come into focus for us this week. Chances are you are aware that the Thanksgiving Holiday is this coming Thursday here in good ole ‘Merica! Before we get off topic on another rant (and you can probably guess where this rant will go …) we want to talk about a taboo topic around these parts: DIET.
We quite literally just finished reading the 100th blog-o-post about working out and eating right this coming Thanksgiving. Seriously peeps … Dare we tread into troubled waters?
“Oh how nice, eat less, exercise more!?! Ground breaking stuff right there!“
This type of advice is nauseating and inadequate at best. Take a quick look around at the waistlines of the lovely peeps passing by? Something should become painfully clear: Different body types use calories in different ways. Each one of us are programmed and predisposed to carry more fat, more weight than others. No kidding hot-shot – Diet and exercise help … (<—Key Word). Although when all is said and done, the solution we seek is inevitably more complicated and complex than pushing away the plate and torturing yourself in the days leading up to Thanksgiving.
One day out of one year feasting with close family and friends will not hurt … We promise!!!
**Take a moment to re-read the quote at the top of the post again, we beg of you**
Let’s start with a nice refreshing Happy Hips Warm Up. Followed By:
150 Alternating Goblet Squats (flowing)
150 Hard Style KB Swings (snappy)
150 Perfect Push Ups (even power)
Slice ‘em and Dice ‘em as you see fit … 15×10 works pretty well?!?
Be fully present peeps, it’s all we ask … ENJOY!!!