Up(rising)

The world isn’t fair, Calvin.”
“I know Dad, but why isn’t it ever unfair in my favor?-

I want to go back and touch on “should” thoughts for a moment before we move onto today’s post. Contemplative thought is truly a brilliant tool to exploring your true potential, just not when its time to perform. I like to call these – trigger happy thoughts or reactive thoughts. Let’s dive a little deeper and to maintain some clarity, I’m relating the post today to competitive outings and more specifically: Running.

What are your initial thoughts and feelings when I tell you that “Fairness” – Is a fallacy? Fairness is rubbish and compete utter nonsense?

Many of us (maybe this hits close to home for you)  Cloak ourselves with the falsehood that there exists only a single standard of fairness and – SPOILER ALERT! – It’s our very own! What we consciously choose to ignore, and this is when we start our “should” thinking, is that fairness is a completely subjective concept, based on our individual needs, expectations, and values. The big boy truth, is that your definition of what’s fair? Is completely self-serving (mine included).

If your buttons have been pushed in the past, or even right now because you thought you were being treated unjustly? Let me share a classic example most runners have lamented about: “I should not be in the 30-39 year old age bracket! It’s too competitive! If only the race organizers would change the ages – my time in a different bracket would get me on the podium!”

Daily Meditation:

The next time you find yourself questioning fairness, your mind clouded with “should” thoughts? Try this on for size at the starting line – What I see as fair? Is a direct reflection of my own deeply held personal preferences. Then proceed to run the race of your life!

CultFit Fair

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5 Comments on “Up(rising)”

  1. Agreed. so many of our “truths” are subjective.

    • CultFit says:

      Like most of my posts, there is a tedious amount of back story to them. Long story short, I’m back “competing” once again. MTB racing and Gravel Grinding. The fairness thoughts I used to have back in the day still linger at times, then float away, while I’m enjoying a beer after the race.

  2. katelon says:

    I can definitely relate to this (although I’m not a runner), as I have certainly done my share of whining over how I feel life “should” be, people “should” be, etc.

    • CultFit says:

      I have learned so much from paying attention and tuning into these thoughts, these emotions. Less “shoulds”, more smiling and simply being :)

    • katelon says:

      And allowing others to “be” as well. Their way might not be my way, but rather than judge, I’m training myself to just say/think “Mmmm …isn’t that interesting”